What does SUCCESS mean to you?

Haha.. so ironic!

Today's Straits TIme CATS RECRUIT. One of their articles was What does success mean to you?

I like reading this page of the straits times. Because everyday they have small little articles that either inspires you, or gives u an outlook of how the working society is right now. Today's article particularly caught my eyes.

Keys to Success: Part 1 of 2

At the end of a chat about a career coaching, a young man asked me: "When will I be successful?"

An Indian expatriate, Mr Amit, was 29 years old and working for a Fortune 500 consulting company. The company had just sent him to Delhi to set up its Indian division, and he was being considered for a long term posting to run the business there.

I was surprised that Mr Amit did not already see himself as a success. Most people are still only warming up at 29. What more could this fellow want?

I was even more amazed by his answer: "I want to be on the cover of TIME magazine." Of course I laughed - not the politically correct response, but his earnest nature was at odds with his ambition.

Having watched other young professionals rise to the top and being feted by their industry and the business world, Mr Amit felt that he could not consider himself a success unless he made it to the cover of TIME. "I thought I'd be there by now," he mused.

This led me to thinking about waht success means to people. If you asked yourself why you are not successful(yet), let us take a look at what you think success is.

People have different ideas about success: Some are happy just to be successful; some need to acquire the trappings of success in order to feel successful; while others need success to validate their lives, and have to go from one high to the next, or risk feeling useless.

Success depends on your expectations of life and everything it revolves around: family, career, friends, society and hobbies. Your idea of success could mean being finacially stable, having children,buying bigger home and retiring aborad. Or you could be someone who has a great carreer, but feel that your personal life is a failure, perhaps to the extent where the other parts of your life feels devalued.

It is difficult to put your finger on how "successful" people really feel inside. It will be prepared to say if everything they have achieved has made them happy. Here I dare venture that success and happiness are so closely related that they might as well be the same thing.

Your values shape the way you look at success. Peace at home. good health and faith may be success for a spiritual type of person, while others may seek wealth and possessions as a measure of success.

In Mr Amit's case, his parents were his main obstacles. As immigrants, they were dismayed that their son was going to move back to his homeland. To them, leaving India represented success, while the oppposite was true for Mr Amit. Furthermore, his upbringing did not allow him to discount his parents' opinion. The end result was a stalemate that Amit perceived as failure.

Opportunity is another factor that influences people's views about success. If you are blessed with good luck, you expect to succeed. On the other hand, if you have to jump through hoops for every dollar you earn, then every small opportunity to do so is a big deal, and every win is something to crow about.

Your idea about what success is changes with time. In your salad days, it might mean being able to accumulate the trapppings of success such as branded goods and cars. Your views change, as you understand more about life. Some things you have or want become less important, and other things take priority, like relationships or looking after the interests of someone other than yourself.

It is normal to doubt yourself sometimes, when nothing feels good and you are not getting anywhere. It is important not to look at one incident or factor in isolation and pinpoint that as the cause of "failure" or unhappiness.

There could be other factors, for example, the lack of degree of personal effort and personal problems. It could be that you are not enjoying your job enough to make success of it, or that you are working for the wrong type of organisation or manger. Do not hand in your resignation just yet - think it through.

As for Mr Amit, if success means basking in the adulation of his peers by being on the cover of Time, he is working towards it in all the right ways, and we might just see him there. Or, in a few years, he might meet someone or hear a story that takes him down a different path altogether, and completely change his perspective on success.

理想情人

穿上洋装看着手表
时间快到心碰碰的跳
和你的第一次约会来临了

金色的阳光洒满人行道
换了新唇膏把头发弄好
要你看到我的好
喜欢看你走路充满自信
说话时候你的专注眼神
温柔的表情笑容里的天真
我相信找不到有比你更好的人
你心里理想情人是几分
是否也会有我的份

好想知道你的100分会给怎样的人
亲爱的你不要再陌生增加我戏份
我想问亲爱的你把感情升等

朋友变成情人可不可以告诉我标准
不要让我一直等
听着那时间滴答的走
对街的你在点头
好像一个梦渐渐走到我前头

好想知道你的100分会给怎样的人
亲爱的你不要再陌生增加我戏份我想问亲爱的你把感情升等朋友变成情人可不可以告诉我标准不要让我一直等

我的100分早就给了你 - Baby

Chirstmas Tree

Its been a long time since I last updated my blog... Have been out of the country. hee.. sound so nice horz.. but actually, i went to genting. To enjoy myself with my family and baby.

Silly girl got a mini christmas tree for christmas and my job is suppose to decorate it. n i guess i did! wahha.. think she might get a surprise!

tot, its far from being perfect, but i'm adding a little as e days past.. hee.

PPT

Few Days ago.. I recieved my 2nd letter from NIE. The 1st letter was to ask me to attend the PPT. THis 2nd letter was to inform me abt e results.. And the results... I got 10/15 !! In another words, I passed! Yeah~!

The passing is 9 marks and I'm not allowed to fail in any stations. Well, considering the results, guess I'm made out to me a PE teacher yeah? hee..

Wish me luck... The next test will be the english test... Follow by the interview... =p

Nassa Bronze Test~!

It was a great success~! yeah~! It was really a success on my part~! I'm so proud of myself. 11 students went for Nassa Bronze Test, and it was a 100% success rate! Cool arn't I? hee...

Its not just that ok~! My students went for the 12pm test, and in that test, there was a total of 20 candidates, yupZ~! Candidates is the word to use! hee.. And, out of the 20, the 1st 6 students were all mine! Well, tat's not just that, the oldest candidate of mine is in secondary 2 and the youngest being in just K2! woah~! K2! hee... tot, he came in last, but i'm realli proud of him when he did that surface dive. In fact, out of all my students, I'm most afraid of him. Because, 1 being him as the youngest there & also of his "size" hee...

He's consider.. erm.. chubby for his age.. n his damm cute lorz~ if can, i would upload his pics here.. hee.. basically all my students parents commented that he's cute n wanted to pinch him.. hee..

Yup, as i was saying, i was so nervous about him... tot i tried to hide my nervousness.. however, it seems that parents in fact do have a sharp eyes eh? hee.. they were able to see my nervousness.. hee.. or sense it? i dunnoe..

yar, so there he was @ e last lap, when he did his surface dive. n when he did that, i was so proud of him! N i was like, i did it~!

Not, only did he perform beyond my expectations, by doing that dive, he also did pretty well in his breaststroke! I used to think that his strokes are u know, just there... but when i saw wat how he swam yesterdae, i was so proud of him~! Well, not just him, i have alot of surprises~

hee.. most of my swimmers swam really well... n end of it, while talking to one of the parents, she said... "its like.. we been waiting for this day to see them doing the test.." hee..

yeah, its a small step for me, 100% pass rate. Next, they will be going for their silver, gold n eventually, if they are still with me, competitive. That's my dream. to see them in the competitive swimming.

Speaking of which, the day before the test, when i was at the pool, i saw 2 coaches teaching competitive swimming.. i was thinking there by myslf.. how nice would it be if those were my students.

Nevertheless, i'm gonna be a good coach. I think in fact, I'm an excellent coach now, because I'm the kind that parents trust in, and students love me! hee..

However, a successful good coach cannot be done by himself, in fact, if realli without baby, i think i cant be that good as wat i am now. I have alot of improvements to improve on. But its because of baby that makes me strive on.

As i was talking with alex today, we talked alot of things and talk abt e "business" that i used to do... well, its a lesson learn. But its also becoz of that "business" that make me realise wat i really want.

And we were talking about babies! hee.. i was saying, how nice it would be if there's a 2 year old child who would keep saying.. "papa...papa..papa.."

hee.. i think its gonna be fun... n it all came after i told him abt e tv show that i saw on channel 8 last nite regarding that priscilla Kong... hee..

Well, i learn alot from that show, Lawerence Kong and Priscilla Kong. oH and Lawerence Kong so happen to be baby pastor. I learnt from them that, whats most important thing in life is to do something that u realli have a passion in, no matter wat obstacles that might hinder it, do not give up. So long, u perserve, u will see results.

Swimming, I'm sorry I used to almost give u up. But I promise u, I would never do that again, because its my love to teach swimming other than loving baby..

~Missing u~

Last nite... i think i cried myslf to sleep... was thinking about my 2 frenz.. i miss them... it's such a terrible feelings of missing someone..

nevertheless, got to accept it n carry on with life..

Raining Season

This month is full of rains... full of tears... hardly able to see those rays of e sun, n feel e warmth of it.. is e world getting colder nowadays or is it e lost of my frenz tt had make my life so cold??

its always e case.. whenever it gets cold or it rains, i get very emotional, very semtimental, very lost.

Nervous

hmmm.. i dunnoe wat to put for e title for this entry.. coz i feel so lost... went for NIE PPT... afraid i cant get thru... I'm nervous..

As one gets older, death seems to be inevitable... last week, my ex girlfriend dad's pass away... haiz.. when i went there, i feel so immune.. to e kind of surrondings.. its as thought, i been there alot of times.... it seems that, i'm losing alot of frenz...

Was with my girl @ Bishan 8 yesterdae.. did something rather "silly" wif her.. went for some coloring session organise by converse... in e end, think our resluts turn out quite well man~ anyway, so long, she's happy.. i dun mind being "silly" wif her for tt moment... She's a nice ger any man would long to get hold of...

~Special Day~

To me, today is gonna be a very very special day. BEcause, its my 1st time going for NIE PPT. A critria needed in order to get into NIE as a PE trainee.. Hee.. n after that, i will be taking my Ncap level 2, where I would hence be 1 step nearer to becoming a level 2 coach.

Coaching is my life, i enjoy teaching esp to kids. Its e kind of smiles on their faces that makes my day. Those smiles too.. remind me of those days where i was as a kid.. with no worries, n certainly, death was not on my mind.

As a read e papers yesterdae, 1 guy who got a heart transplant managed to live till 20 yrs later.. he said something like.. "why go for all the names n certs n money? because when u die, u will have to leave everything behind." It kinda makes senses to me @ this phase of my life.

Strangely, nowadays whenever i wake up from my sleep or my afternoon nap, e moment i open my eyes, i would say "Thank you". I'm not a chrisitian, thought I'm like a bit of Taoism, but erm, i'm actually free thinker, i believe there are super natural forces out there but I do wish n like to "classified" them. Therefore, whenever I wakes up, i would say "Thank you" to whoever out there is looking after me n protecting me.

After so much that has happened, I value life more, I treasure life more. I'm not that hot tempered anymore, I treasure my family n my frenz even more. I'm not that particular about life, people n things that are happening around me. I take whatever that I'm given and I try to give in any way I can. I try my best.

But I still believe, if i can make it to become a PE teacher, I would make a great teacher n a great coach!

My Dreams - To see my athletics on the winning platform.

You give up on us...

He gave up on us... He couldn't fight e battle any longer... But I know, he's a strong guy.. a very strong guy who was determined to carry on life... but he just couldn't do it.

I miss him... We grew up together ever since we were small, from playing block catching together to having tution together to being in the same primary sch to being in the same class in Pri 5 & 6 to playin soccer together n always thinking of ways to run away from e cops to basketball khaki to supper khaki to so many so many things... He was around when i needed a fren juz to keep me company. He was there to study together wif me for my o levels.. He was more than a fren, he was like a big brother to me.. But now, he's gone.

No words can ever say how much i miss him nor how hurt i feel. I guess only tears can represent it.

Double Impact

Today is childrens day, yet, while I am here blogging away, my very very good fren of mine is lying there in ICU, due to brain tumour. Chances are, he might never be able to wake up.

Why? I been thinking thru these few days... He's just 21 years old. He had yet to enjoy the taste of life, e fruits of his studies, e love of his recent gf, e warmth of a family. And he's lying there now, in coma...

I am not trying to bad mouth anything about SAF over here. BUt anyway, if SAF wanan charge me for wat i blog here, go ahead. Because, its YOU! SAF! U! U took away my 2 very most good fren in this life! And Because of you! I lost them! 2 Friends! Who could and might never be with me during my happiest times in life and my saddest times in life! WHo would enlighten me about life, who would teach me things like how a big brother would teach a younger brother!

You guys keep talking about safety 1st safety that. Buy do you guys really care about us!? I lost my very 1st friend because of this fucking thing called safety! And till date, I do not even noe wat the fuck happend!

And for god sake, this fren is super duper FIT! Hes' SOF!And yet, hes gone... Just like tat! Leaving behind his parents, n we frenZ!

And now, within 3 months, my 2nd frenz is now lying there in ICU!And it happened during guard duty!

Now, looking at all those tubes around him... I.. I.. I just cant see him longer... I cried. I cried badly..

He's my childhood frenz, my ex neighbour, my pri sch classmate, my basketball khaki, my soccer khaki, my supper brother, my brother.. He's... my fren, a good good frenz.

The kind of feelings when I heard abt it. My heart brokes. 2 cases, and it all happened because of U! Fuck UP SAF! DO u know that you took away 2 good frenz of mine! 2 guys who lost their lives because all they wanted to do was to protect the nation!

When we guys go to the MO for serious and truth medical reasons, ur fuck up MO thinks we trying to play punk, trying to kin our way to downgrade! FUCK! When we are realli sick, n yet u give us this kind of doubt, than wats the point of lying of lifes down! You tell me!

NOw, charge me if you wan coz i dun care! U guys never cared abt how we felt! ALl u guys cared was ur face, ur reputation to the public! Do u guys ever cared for us? Do u guys know How i feel!

I lost 2 frenz! ANd it all happened in ur fuck up organisation, ur so called, education-organisation! I say fuck u!

Do u know? we are not even 30, not even 25! But because of a "call of duty", does that means we have to lose our lifes because of it?

Do u noe? we are sons of a mother and a father, we have parents, we have loved ones, we have frenz, we have our interestes, we have our passions, we have Dreams, we have. we have alot more things that has yet to accomplise... but... because of this "call of duty", we gave them all up!

DO U EVER REALISE?!

watever gonna happen to our parents if we are gone? watever gonna happen to my girl? watever gonna happen to so many many so many ppl ard us? Wat abt our dreams?

This few days I am in a state of shock. I cant accpet. I just cant.

I cant imagine the worst. I cant. Because lying down there in the ICU is my good frenz, my best frenz.

God likes to play a joke on us. Really. WHy must u take away something from us when we are about to learn the truth of life? When we are turning into men?

I'm scared.

New Beginning New Blog

Yeah... after sometimes, i decided to get a brand new blog, choosing a brand new name... its been a hard and long time since i last made my decision...

I decided! To carry on doing wat i love doing most and i aspired to be a PE teacher.. yeah, i wanna give my best shot and try to be a PE teacher.. because Sports all along has been something wat i wanted to do.. hence, i will and i wan to go all out for it. Tot, the pay is not tt attractive as wat i used to do, however, i feel more satisifition in there.

For me, i guess my success is being measured by the number of smiles i see on my kids faces and the number of hugs n kisses i recieved from them.

Like me, I am still very grateful for my swimming coach n my lifesaving coach. They have taught me well. Althought, in the past i do not know how to appreciate them, perhaps due to my young age. But, as I grow up, i began to realise the values they instill in me. I am truly Thankful.

Thank you Jack! Thank You Mr Kwa! In between Jack n Mr Kwa, there was also one more coach, i cant remember his name but i think is Mr Tan.. n also last but not least. my instrctor in SAF - Master ALan.

He's someone whos really worth my respect. Thought, when i first saw him, i feel that its like i used to see him b4, but i just cant remember. But, i respect him althought he trained me for only like 2 weeks. I am thinking of getting a card for him. hee..

Therefore, thought my students are all still very young and playful i must say, but i just hope and wish one day when i am walking on the street, they will call me out n say "Jerry! Thank you for coaching me. You made me fell in love with swimming." To me, thats success.

And that is why i keep wanting to upgrade myself. By going for higher levels. I am currently taking NCAP LEvel 2 (Theroy). And guess wat? I am the youngest in the class! I feel proud. And I feel thats the way Singapore Sports Coaches Should be like.. Continuing To upgrade ourselves..

I love my life now. Because I am doing what I love most. And most importantly, with the person I love most.